Our Baby-Free Vacation! By Lauren Senese
My husband and I recently came back from our second vacation together. Just us. No family. No friends. No baby.
We are both more than just parents to a wonderful, beautiful, and amazing little boy: we are husband and wife. And we’ve found that vacationing without our little guy is what we need to do occasionally to reconnect, to relax, and to spend time being with each other.
Is it selfish? Some may think so, but if it keeps us connected and keeps us loving each other, it’s really not. Besides…we’ve taken our son on 3 trips requiring a plane already, and as many of you know: it’s no vacation. In each of our 3 trips he had some problems, but they got worse each time. So we made the tough, but practical, decision to vacation without him.
Obviously, you worry about EVERYTHING! From your own safe return to whether or not his hair was shampooed enough. But what we worried the most about were: How will my child(ren) react to being separated from us; who do I trust enough to care for him while we’re away; what happens if there is an emergency and we’re on a different continent, and much more. But in November 2009, my husband and I took a trip to Barcelona, Spain…and ALL of us did great. So we tried again this summer and went to Alaska. Again: we ALL did great.
We hired our former nanny to take care of our son while we were away. She brought up 4 kids of her own and thinks of our child like one of her own. She has the energy needed to keep up with him, and he’s familiar with her. For a few different reasons we chose not to have family care for him, and for us it was the right decision. Yes…it cost us more, but you get what you pay for! When you hire someone, you can instruct them on how you want things done; when you have a grandparent or sibling or the like caring for your child, it’s a lot harder to enforce your wishes.
I’m no expert, but I personally believe that the more connected you and your partner are, the better parents you’ll make. And while your children are always a priority, you should still try to make some time for yourselves. I know that not everyone can afford to go away, but even if it’s just one night in a hotel away from home, it’s a getaway. If you can’t do that, have someone take your kids for a day or two and spend some time together in your own home…just make some time to spend with each other. Think about it: you’ll get to sleep IN! It’s amazing what a good night’s sleep will do.
Happy vacationing/staycationing to you all!
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