Don’t let your Marriage take a Back Seat to Diaper Duty
By Toni Anderson
We’ve all been there, a child is sick, you get a call from the teacher regarding Johny’s behavior in school, the dog got out again, and the baby is happily playing in the toilet! Motherhood can be an exhausting job with little time off and little appreciation.
It is important during this time of babies and toddlers that you don’t let your marriage take a back seat to motherhood. One day soon all those babies will leave the nest, leaving you and your husband wondering where the last 20 years has gone. There are simple things you can do to help keep your marriage a top priority even when the kids are small!
While you might not be able to afford or feel comfortable with a baby sitter, you can still have date nights at home. Here are a few fun and frugal ideas for date nights that don’t involve a babysitter or leaving the house! Put the kids to bed early and try one of these date night ideas.
Dinner and a Movie
Check out movie from the library (or get one for a dollar from Redbox) and order take out. Put the kids to bed and have a dinner and a movie date night at home.
Many people have an outdoor fireplace. Build a fire and snuggle up outside under the stars. If you are like me s’mores are a definitely part of this date night!
Have you noticed that most movies have a sequel? Pop some popcorn, pour yourself a glass of soda and watch some of your favorite movies all in a row. If my husband was choosing we would be watching the Bourne movies, or maybe Star Wars.
Go Dancing (in your living room)
Remember how much fun you had dancing at your wedding? Push the furniture out of the way and put on your wedding song, along with a few other favorites. You can dance the night away without 250 of your friends and family watching.
Read a Book Together
I know many couples who love to read out loud to each other. Pick an interesting book and start reading. You can take turns reading, or the reader in your family can read the whole thing.
Play a Game
Remember those things sitting in cardboard boxes in your hall closet? Those games are just waiting for someone to play them. When my husband and I were first married and didn’t have any money we played scrabble and backgammon all the time. It was really fun, well at least it was for me because I won most of the games!
Watch the Game
I know not all women are sports fans (or men for that matter) but if your husband LOVES to watch his favorite game on tv, spend a night watching the game with him. You never know, you might end up liking it!
What you do is not important, it’s actually making the time to make your marriage a priority. If you keep marriage at the top of your “to do” list, the transition from “mommy” to empty nester will be a bit smoother.
Toni Anderson is a blogger and member of the BornFree Mom Panel.
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