Been There, Bought That
Heck, I don’t think I really wised up until he was a year old, insisting that he, of course, NEEDED all the toys and gadgets that promised to keep him engaged and occupied. All those empty promises, they helped me to hold on to the glimmer of hope that my demanding baby might keep himself entertained for 15 minutes so that I could read a magazine or check my email in peace. Not many of them delivered, at least not consistently enough to justify their price tag and footprint in my living room (although I will forever be indebted to the bouncy chair and exersaucer).
And clothes? He needed lots of clothes! He needed a special outfit for each remotely “special” occasion, along with matching accessories, which he never kept on for more than a minute once he figured out how to get his chubby hand up to his head and how to wrap his sausage fingers around the brim of the custom made, ridiculously adorable hat.
But, I recognize that that’s sort of the fun of being a first time parent, allowing yourself to get caught up in all the little details, trying out all the toys. The thing is, it’s not like nobody told me not to waste my money. I just didn’t care. I wanted all these things for me him. And now that I’ve got that out of my system, I feel like the next kid might sleep in a dresser drawer and wear a pillowcase every day.
Sure, there are some things I want to get for the second baby, but they definitely fall more on the practical side of things, like a cosleeper bassinet that attaches to the bed, and another Miracle Blanket (we only had one with my first and that thing didn’t get washed nearly as much as it should have for fear of being without it come naptime). I don’t find myself obsessing over all the “stuff” this time around, though. I don’t know, maybe it’s too early. Maybe that will come later, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it doesn’t, and that’s okay with me. This baby will still have what it needs.
With my first pregnancy, I think I needed to focus on the planning and preparing, and the more I planned and prepared, the more I purchased. This time around, I don’t really have the time or the energy to focus on worrying about that stuff. I’m too busy keeping the toddler from playing in the toilet.
So I have two questions for you. What do you think is necessary for the second baby? And what do you think was the best purchase you made for your first baby?
Jill Krause is a BornFree Panel member and blogger.