When my oldest child was a toddler I felt very alone. My husband took our only car to work each day and I was stuck at home with few friends and little support. These were the days of dial-up internet and 14k modems, so finding support on the web was not an option.
We moved shortly after our second child was born and I joined a mom’s bible study at my church. What a difference that group of ladies made in my life! We met only twice a month, but I looked forward to those meetings. It was wonderful to talk, ask questions, get advice, and support from people who were going through exactly what I was going through! That bible study met a need during my early years as a mom.
The problem with that mom’s bible study was that we were all in the exact same season of life. We all had babies and toddlers, there were very few moms who had kids out of elementary school. There was very little “mom” experience in that group.
Fast forward to a few years ago. I was finally able to plug-in to a group with experienced, veteran moms. These moms had kids who were in college, some of them were even grandmothers! These moms have influenced and enriched my life beyond belief. I am thankful to have wise women who have befriended me, helped show me the ropes, and encouraged me in motherhood.
At first it might seem odd to seek out women who are 10 or 15 years older, and who from the outside, seem like they might not have much in common with you. But trust me, there are some things about motherhood that never change and these women are walking encyclopedias. Many of these women would love to have a young mom to mentor or encourage.
If you are an older more experienced mom seek out younger moms, they need the support! Many people live far from their families, so the days of walking over to Grandma’s house for some advice or help just doesn’t exist for many families. You can be their home away from home.
Be purposeful in your relationships. Give and serve when you can, and surround yourself with people who can help you grow.
Toni is a wife, mom, blogger and member of the BornFree Mom Panel.
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